Relationships and stress

Relationships can be stressful. I am talking mostly about relationships with the opposite sex. It gets really hard to communicate sometimes. You may say one thing to your boyfriend or girlfriend and they get the total opposite meaning of what you intended. This can cause stress and conflict which may lead to an argument. Also, you can have the best intentions, but your plans can totally backfire on you and make things worse than before. For example, you may stop to buy something at a store for your romantic meeting later on in the evening and wind up being late for your date. Then, your boyfriend or girlfriend may be so upset with you. This is what can happen when you are trying too hard to impress someone. I have learned not to do this anymore. It is important when dealing with relationships not to give your boyfriend or girlfriend the wrong impression of a situation.

It is time for a new year and positive changes

I am relieved that Christmas has come and gone because this has been  a depressing and stressful part of the year for me.  I am ready to start a new year and leave the disappointments and failures behind me. This past year of 2011 I have gone through various changes. One change that happened to me was that I started seeing a new guy friend, but it ended  recently(a few weeks ago). As a matter of fact, I am still disappointed about the way it happened. I know I was guilty of not spending enough time with him and not communicating enough with him as well. I guess I took him for granted. In addition, I was a little bit afraid of having a serious relationship and a boyfriend. I understand why he let me go, but I do not like the fact that he accused me of seeing someone else. I was not seeing someone else, but I guess that was his excuse for letting me go. Then, I made matters worse by trying to convince him I was not seeing anyone else. Now, he will not even answer my calls. I do not want to force him to come back to me, but I want to explain to him about my fear of being committed to him. I am thinking about writing him, but I am becoming hesitant of doing that.  Well, I am going to let him go, but I must decide on whether to send the letter or not.  Another change that I went through was I quit a very stressful job without taking another job first.  I have currently been doing some jobs at home on the Internet, but I am thinking about finding a good job in the real world that was better than the one I had before. I feel like I am in the process of self- awakening because I am going through so many tests and tribulations. I have learned  from this relationship that I must be very active in communicating with a partner or let them go. Also, I have learned that I must explain my problems that I have with relationships before I become involved in a relationship. This must be done to preserve the feelings of my friend and myself. I am ready for a new year and positive changes.